Friday, June 22, 2007

Should I date a grandfather?

I'm usually not interested in men unless they have at least a college education, but I'm trying to be broadminded these days. And I'm stretching my age limits upward (although NOT downward).

I got a message today from a gent on a dating website:

Was just wondering if you would add one more year? SMILE I am [his age] (and young by the way with that youthful smile)

If you wish to, please feel to tell me a bit more about you and your little world in the big city. I can tell you more then what i sort of put together here on my short profile.

Wishing you a wonderful Shabbos and if the weather kepps up, we will have a great time in the city parks this weekend -- Moishy

Hm. His picture is password-protected, so I don't know if he really looks young. His grammar and usage aren't the best; his education is listed as "some university," which I know in many cases means "high school diploma" -- if you're lucky.

On the other hand, he sounds nice and friendly.

Hi Moishy -- Before I tell you more about myself, I really need to know where you live, where you daven, what you do for a living, how many kids you have, and how old they are. And I'd appreciate your photo password.

He wrote back:

Thank you for your kind reply, :-)

I live in the West 70's. Daven at LSS and also at times at Rabbi Forhand on 91 as they love my Nussach for Shacrit on Shabbos. And at times on 72nd at Rabbi Mintz.

I have 3 great grown kids (all boys) and one grand son, he is so cute! My boys are ages 24 - 22 and 18 I am in the High tech consutling business.

My photo password is [whatever] Wishing you all the best and thank you again for responding.

WHA-HA-HA-HA-HA-HAT???????????????? Three grown sons and a grandson?

[Oh, by the way: I checked out his photo, and he is NOT "young." Bald, paunchy, graybearded. He looks every year of his age and then some. I almost wonder if he's lying about his age.]

Three grown sons and a grandson!? I honestly don't know if I can handle that. I will have to get back to you.

I thought we'd leave it at that, but he wrote back:

Sure! not to worry at all. Just if you can tell me a bit more if you wish to, as that i have helped others before and i am a people person and matched up a few people who are Baruch hashem happy. So maybe i can try for you as well one day. Have a great Shabbos and enjoy

Now I'm torn. I think I already know that I cannot date him. I just can't. Even though he's a nice guy and he obviously makes a good living. (The West 70s are not a neighborhood for people who don't make bank.)

He looks old enough to be my father, and I do not find him at all attractive. I don't know if we're intellectually compatible, either... and three grown sons and a grandson?! I can barely envision being a stepmother -- being a step-grandmother is way too creepy.

But how can I take him up on his alleged offer to set me up with someone else? "I am not at all interested in you -- the men I'm interested in are much younger, thinner, and smarter than you. With better hair. Know any good ones?"
Copyright (c) 2007 "Ayelet Survivor"

1 comment:

  1. I don't think it's smart to write off his intelligence that quickly. High-tech consultants do need to have some brains :)

    He sounds like a reasonably friendly and even-keeled person, from what very little I've read here. Perhaps tell him you're not interested in dating him, but you'll meet for coffee so he can see whether you're good for another guy, and you can see whether he's good for an older single woman you know?