Monday, March 17, 2008

Guitar Zero

An ex-girlfriend of Guitar Hero, Shoshana, wrote me on Facebook because he posted a photo of the two of us:

Ayelet, I am really not trying to be nasty, but I noticed in your profile that you have a picture of you and GH. As you probably know I am no longer going out with GH at all. He broke up with me based on the fact that I would not go to bed with him. I do not want to associate myself with someone who has slept with several woman and talks about other woman that he has dated. I might tell you that he is the type who has slept around with several woman and has talked about everyone behind their back including telling me that his friend JG failed the bar exam, when I first met him. He also said somethings about you and I was really happy when the relationship was over. I would really highly advise you to stay away from him. I really never had the opportunity to tell you this because I just never did. And now I am since I am on Facebook, I am telling you this. You can make the decision of what you want to do or you can learn the hard way. If you really wan to know what he said about you, I will tell you. He told me that you put a vibrator up you know what. I am very serious. I think that it is really disgusting to discuss these things with other people.

Okay, that was more information than I needed -- although I was pleased to learn JG flunked the bar -- but it didn't really surprise me. I didn't want to get into this discussion, though. I responded:

GH took that picture of us at a party we were both at. I'm not really that friendly with him. I'm not surprised he said those things, but I really don't care because I'm not close with him.

She tried to fish a little more:

That is not a nice thing to say at all. I am sure he said some nasty things about me.

I wasn't going to go there. Obviously she knows he's got loose lips and wants to know the crap he's spewing about her -- which, true to character, he has indeed told me. But I don't think it would be helpful to tell her, and I don't want to support his loshon hora.

A few weeks later, GH emailed me:

Sorry I gossiped about you. Shosh seems to feel vindictive and gets off on sending me nasty emails and sending nasty emails to my friends. She sent one message saying "How is your friend Amir?" knowing full well he is dead -- she has a very good memory so she meant that to be cruel and hurtful to me. Sorry you are involved in this, I may call her and deal with it.

Hope all is well, hope I didn't offend you when I sent you an email clarifying my stance on our relationship, saying I do not wish to have a girlfriend - boyfriend relationship with you.

"Hope I didn't offend you?" You've gotta be kidding. I should have left it alone, but I have a constitutional inability to stop myself from putting in my 2 cents (or more).

I wasn't offended that you're not interested in dating me. I was offended by the extremely rude way you handled it and decided I was no longer interested in being your friend. I don't doubt that Shoshana is being vindictive, but I also believe what she says about you.

Why can't I let well enough alone? Of course he wrote back.

How should I have responded to you? And why do you think Shoshana is doing these things to me?


You should have talked to me when I tried to talk to you, and you should not have been rude and disrespectful. I don't know why Shoshana is behaving this way.

Actually, I do have my theories about why Shoshana is acting this way, but I'm damned if he's going to get the benefit of my expensively acquired education for free. And I don't believe for a minute that his lame-ass apology was sincere, especially since he wrote back:

I was under the impression that proper etiquette for both the male and the female is to not answer calls since it makes them appear desperate and needy, and I thought the appropriate thing to do is to not return calls -- that is what orthodox women do to me, so I figured that is what is done.

GH was raised orthodox and is now no longer observant. He loves to slide in these little passive-aggressive digs at orthodox men and women.

There's only one way to get the last word in the digital age...

I can't tell whether you're being disingenuous or deliberately dense, or manifesting symptoms of your closed head injury. Just don't contact me anymore; I've blocked your email addresses.
Copyright (c) "Ayelet Survivor"

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