Sunday, June 14, 2009

How I screwed up. Again.

I have to say, Dr. R was right. I went to my birthday party, and even though most of the people I invited didn't come, those who did amounted to a respectable crowd -- and I had fun, which was the main idea. Besides, in a Manhattan Dunkin' Donuts seating is extremely limited, so had all 100+ people I invited actually showed, it would have been a fire hazard.

But I want to show you how I scared off yingerman. He's way too young and far away to be a realistic prospect, so I guess he was good to learn on.

Ayelet: hey
yingerman: hey
yingerman: how r u
Ayelet: not bad, u?
yingerman: ok ... lots to do but I still went shopping!

I'll spare you the details of what he bought, but that boy sure can shop.

Ayelet: so... I have to tell u something
yingerman: ?
yingerman: yes
Ayelet: I thought u were ignoring my IMs on Facebook so I unfriended u
yingerman: ohh really !?!
Ayelet: yes
yingerman: no i wasnt
yingerman: that is sad
Ayelet: ok
yingerman: :(
Ayelet: I apologize
yingerman: ok
Ayelet: this long distance thing is very hard
yingerman: hmm yes ok
Ayelet: it would be nice to meet, but I'm not sure how that's going to happen


Ayelet: hello?

More silence.

Ayelet: well, have a good Shabbos, and take care

So much for yingerman. I tried to friend him again; he hasn't responded. I know he wasn't a realistic prospect, but there I go from the flattering pursuit by a much-younger man to repelling him with my neurosis.
Copyright (c) "Ayelet Survivor"


  1. I don't see how this is a screw up. He was too far. There's nothing wrong with that. I don't know. To me, u did nothing wrong.

  2. I agree with Hanss1. You did not screw up! This guy was never a realistic prospect. Don't waste your time thinking another minute about it.

    Speaking as someone who attended your party it was a very respectable crowd. 3 pm on a summer Sunday, let alone the day of the PR parade, is always hard. But you had a nice group of friends and some good gifts!

    Remember your resolution to try and see the good in your life?

    Glad your birthday party was a success.

  3. Glad you had a good time.

    Next time try to avoid the overwhelming temptation to unfriend in guy-panic. I've so done this, and it's usually been undeserved. Can't blame them for running.

    Happy happy and many happy returns.


  4. To "screw up" something that wasn't meant to be in the first place is actually setting it right. So you did good.