Saturday, December 18, 2010

Really breaking The Rules

So tomorrow I'm going to a museum with CY. This week I got a delivery from FreshDirect, so I actually have food, including fresh vegetables, at home. I thought it might be fun to make lunch for us after the museum. This is of course completely against The Rules, since it's only our third date.

But I'm doing it anyway. He's a nice guy, I don't have to play games with him. I'm making a quinoa salad with avocado, tomatoes, cucumber, and kidney beans, with coconut water (your choice of mango or passion fruit) to drink, and pomelo for dessert. And yogurt if he wants some. Or kefir.

I also went to the trouble of actually cleaning the apartment, which I generally only do when I expect company who doesn't know me well enough to know I'm a terrible housekeeper. Love those Clorox disinfectant wipes; my apartment's small enough to clean up with only 5 or 6 of them, plus a couple of Swiffer dusters.

Oh, and my mother thinks that if I keep blogging, my enemies will find it and ruin my career and marital prospects. Not sure if I agree with her.
Copyright (c) "Ayelet Survivor"

9 comments:

  1. You're living in a dream world if you think people can't identify you through your blog. It's really not that hard, considering how many details you include. Didn't your previous degree program find out about your blog? I would heed your mother's advice.

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  2. the rules say don't have dates over to your house by the third date? My own personal "rules" are not to hook up with dudes until the third or fourth date if I want to keep dating them (I found out the hard way that hooking up on the first date= guys assuming you are just interested in hooking up with them). But the third date would be perfectly acceptable.

    With my husband we hooked up the first time on our fourth date, but we hung out at his place for the first, third and fourth date, and hung out at my place for our second date...we just didn't have money to go anywhere (We were both students when we met).

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  3. I'm just making lunch for him -- I'm not taking off any clothes. If we make out, we make out, but I'm not going to initiate it.

    CA, The Bad Place found out about my blog because I was stupid enough to show it to a fellow student who ratted me out. Have you identified me yet?

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  4. I lived on the UWS for a few years and I still have friends there. If I made a few phone calls, I'm sure it wouldn't be be hard for me to find out. I'm fascinated that you assume you can maintain complete anonymity on the internet while divulging so many personal details. Do you really think the world or the UWS is that large? Do you think nobody on the UWS reads blogs or Facebook or that all of your real friends who know about this never blab to each other or to other people? Jewish geography is the official icebreaker of almost every conversation between Jews.

    I don't know who you are and I don't care. I just thought you should know that it wouldn't be that hard to find out if I did. Personally, I think everything you write here belongs in a therapist's office with the door closed and real treatment that would help you resolve your issues. But that's just me.

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  5. Begs the question, CA: why do you keep reading?

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  6. Seriously, CA. I, for one, feel very thankful to Ayelet for posting such intricate, but resourceful, details of her life. Some may be fairly private, but I don't think she has posted anything glaringly obvious about her identity. Of course, if she really felt compelled to, she could privatize her blog, but hopefully she would provide her readers with the password :)

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  7. How is making a salad for a third date "breaking the rules"?

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  8. I'm not sure how or why what I wrote begs the question of why I read. As I said, I don't care who you are and if you're willing to expose so many intimate details about your life and constantly draw attention to them on your blog and on FB, that's your business. All I was pointing out was, don't assume that your anonymity is guaranteed forever. Most bloggers eventually assume that their identity comes out, one way or another, especially Jewish bloggers, because the Jewish world is so small. I can't think of anyone who has blogged as long as you have who still assume they are anonymous and I personally know quite a few Jewish bloggers.

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  9. OK, CA, I'll be more specific: are you trying to protect me from myself or prove that you're the brilliant mistress of the blogosphere (and everywhere else) to put me in my place? ;)

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